Flirty Girl Night Out - Friday November 30th

I am thrilled to announce that Flirty Girl Fitness in Toronto is having yet another legendary Flirty Girl Night Out party on November 20th.

This HIGHLY ANTICIPATED party features the following:

*Complimentary Cocktails

*HOT performances from Flirty Girl instructors

*Appetizers from Marben Restaurant

*Hair Styling from Blonde Salon

*Make-up touch ups by Dalish Cosmetics

*Dermalogica

*Flirty Girl Gift Bag

*Free access to an afterparty at one of Toronto's HOTTEST night clubs and so much more!



Cost: $25 in advance, limited tickets available
This event is FREE for Flirty Girl Fitness members.
RSVP is a MUST please call 416-920-1400

The last party had OVER 375 girls - don't miss out!

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When to dump a friend

She always places herself first.

Like any relationship, there needs to be give and take and there comes a point where you want to preserve the friendship rather than always get your way. Is it always her way or the highway? If you find your friend always makes everything about her, then perhaps you should rethink the friendship. If she always waits for you to crawl back and apologize you may want to break this pattern in keeping with the theme that you teach people how to treat you and not indulge the outburst.

You can’t count on her.

Part of being a good friend is being there for your friends when they need you and vice versa. When you are in need of a friend is your friend around or is she frequently otherwise disposed? You should be able to count on your friend being there for you and likewise she should be able to count on you.

She isn’t trustworthy.

Can you tell her something in confidence and know that it will go no further. Friends should be able to share intimate details of their lives with each other with an expectation of privacy, especially if you both have the understanding that it is private information. If you tell your friend something confidential then overhear gossip about yourself that only she and you knew, then you may want to rethink the friendship.

You’ve grown apart.

Some friendships can survive growth in different directions and others cannot. If you have a mutual respect for each other and genuinely want each other to do what makes them happiest, then you should be able to remain friends. If one friend still likes to go out and party and the other friend wants to settle down and start a family, you may not hang out as much but you should be able to remain friends because you recognize that you are just on divergent paths that may cross once again. Some friendships though are based more on the hanging out frequently and doing the same things. These friendships often alter and sometimes end once one friend opts to take a different route.

Keep in mind that when you do ‘dump’ a friend you want to be at a level so that if you see each other in public it is not awkward but there is a mutual respect for one another. Be clear with yourself and your feelings and try to avoid saying anything you could regret. Sometimes misunderstandings can just be cleared up with a simple and honest conversation. There are also times where you can just discreetly go about your life and let the friendship fade or fizzle on its own without a long talk. In the end it is all about being happy and content with your life and those around. If someone has you stressed or upset more than they have you smiling, it is probably best to move on.

A Simple Life

If there many changes and things going on right now that have made life seem crazy, if not hectic, one way to tackle this is to make your goal a simple life. The question is, how does one attain a simple life when there is so much happening at once and decisions that need to be made.

Do one thing at a time.

If your focus is divided into too many points, it is hard to accel at one thing. When feeling overwhelmed, it is best to concentrate on one task at a time. If you immerse yourself in dealing with the here and now, you will accomplish some of what you set out to do and therefore feel as though are not just spinning your wheels in the mud.

Keep what is important to you around.

Life is too important to spend it worrying about things that end up being irrelevant to you in the end. Only keep those things in your life that are important to you. Spend time partaking in those things that you deem a priority.



Enjoy what you have.

This means that you are grateful for what you have in your life and that you truly relish its presence. You may not have everything that you want in life but it is rare that people have it all, even peoples definitions of having it all is different from one person to the next.

Clear the clutter.

Try to get rid of belongings that you do not really need. It's amazing how little we actually need. Once you clean out your closets and get rid of those excess material possessions, we are more able to appreciate the things that we do have.

Be in the moment.

Being present is one of the hardest things for people to do. Many people are focused on the next steps and what they need to do now to get there. There is nothing wrong with goals and setting yourself up in a position to achieve them but you also have to spend time in the here and now to obtain simple life satisfaction. If your idea of relaxation is a hot bubble bath, take one. Focus on your breathing, taking in the fresh air of the outdoors and the beauty that surrounds you.

Make it or Break it?

Often times in a relationship it is hard to know whether you should keep pressing forward or whether it is time to walk away and start anew. Relationships are anything but cut and dry, especially when conflict is involved. So, how does one decide whether it makes sense to stick through the tough times or move on.

Do not let your emotions do the talking.

Most people know better than to make major career decisions when they are emotionally charged or upset. The same rules should apply to an emotional relationship. Major relationship decisions should never be made in haste or in the midst of an argument. If you cannot have a calm and collected conversation about your relationship without getting upset, it is best to reserve that conversation for another time when you are both in a calm place. When you do this, you are less likely to say something that you do not mean out of anger.

Do not let the small stuff ruin a good thing.

This seems like a no-brainer but there are many people out there who get annoyed by those pesky little relationship annoyances and let them balloon into something bigger and irreparable. If everything else about your relationship is on track, you trust each other, you're attracted to one another, you respect each other etc... look at compromising on some of the little things that bother you.

Ask yourself how you feel about yourself in the relationship.

If you like yourself when you're on your own, but find yourself always feeling insecure or turning mean when you are with him, you should reconsider your relationship. Are you able to be yourself with him? Do you feel confident when your with him? Is it as though you are a better version of yourself when you are together? If your answers to the last three questions are yes, then your relationship is likely a healthy one and serving you well.

Do not ignore the big things.

There are bigger issues in a relationship that should not be ignored just because you are in that happy place together such as cleanliness, family values, drugs and alcohol and financial matters. Is he is a slob? Do you both want the same things in terms of family and future? Does he do drugs or drink more than you would like? Are you similar when it comes to money matters with regards to spending it and saving it? Are these things that you can deal with or are you in it hoping that it will change later? Chances of change are always present, but you should keep in mind that the person you have before you today may never change. If you are not comfortable with the person you are with today, you should perhaps rethink whether you want to be with that person long term.

Do what you feel is best.

Deciding whether or not to stay in a relationship is indeed a stressful situation. Keep in mind that your relationship should serve both you and your partner and ideally you should both be better versions of yourself when you are together. If you find yourself asking the question of whether to stay or go, you need to think about what you really want and how you truly feel before making your decision.

Life Lessons from a Dog...

I read this somewhere and felt the need to post it for others to read because I think it emcompasses an important message:

Live simply.

Love generously.

Care deeply.

Speak kindly.

Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:

When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure Ecstasy.

Take naps.



Stretch before rising.

Run, romp, and play daily.

Thrive on attention and let people touch you.

Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.

On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.

On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.

When you're happy, dance around and wag your entire body.

Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.

Be loyal.

Never pretend to be something you're not.

If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.

When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them gently.

ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF EVERY DAY!

The One?

It can take months, days or happen in the blink of an eye...chemistry, attraction, that 'je ne sais quoi' that can lead to something more.

Often times women are left trying to decipher whether they have found 'the One'. There are a few ways to tell if you have a keeper or a sport fish that you should return back to the ocean.

1. He listens to you.

Any man with an interest in pursuing a future or a serious relationship with you, will listen to what you have to say when you need him to. The problem will never be too big, out of genuine concern he will want to help you and try to guide you to a solution to the problem.

2. You trust him.

You trust that he has your best interest at heart. Without trust a relationship is doomed. Your expectations should be managed and realistic. It is violated expectations that can ruin a relationship.

3. You would be his friend even if he were not your boyfriend.

He is good person, someone you would want to be around, even if it were not in the romantic sense. Partners require the same amount of nurturing that a friendship does. You should hold him to the same standard that you hold your friends to. If your friend constantly let you down, you would likely not want to be their friend anymore. If your friend needed you, you would be there for them etc.



4. You share common ground.

Your moral compasses should be similar. Your values and beliefs as well as desires for the future should share common ground so that you can grow together as a couple.

5. It feels right.

Every relationship has its ups and downs but you should not feel like you are a square trying to fit through a round hole. When things are going well, it feels almost effortless, as though things are meant to be. You don't feel like you are constantly trying to be someone you are not.

6. He enriches your life.

As the old saying goes "love gives you wings". You should feel as though he supports you and stimulates your desires and stretches your imagination further.

7. He sacrifices for you.

The right man will consider sacrificing for you an honour. He will gladly give as it means that he is not giving up something himself but investing in a future for the both of you. It does not need to be a monetary sacrifice but can be as easy as spending quality time with you.

Be careful of the kind of packages you seek the One in. I once had a girlfriend who would only date men that were a certain height, had a certain eye color etc. Open your mind and your heart and see what there is around you and you may just find that the One was there all along or right around the corner.